Am I Ready for a Baby? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
Are you ready for a baby? Making the decision to become parents is the largest and most life-altering in anyone’s lifetime. Deciding when the time is right can be really hard. We’ve put together this five-question “Am I ready to be a mother quiz” for anyone who’s considering having a baby and looking for a bit of guidance on trying to decide when the time is right.
Of course, we acknowledge that everyone’s situation is different and that life will never be absolutely perfect. So, just use the questions to help you think about your own life and deciding when to have a baby.
1. Is Your Relationship Stable and Loving?
Although many people have, and do, successfully raise children in single-parent households, research confirms that the best foundation for a happy childhood is a two parent family. Couples who want to have a baby should consider whether their relationship is strong enough to cope with the stress and changes of starting a family. The basis of good parenting is good communication.
- Do you share similar values?
- Are you able to listen respectfully to each other’s opinions?
- Are you equals in the relationship?
- Do you have a strong loving bond?
If you answer “yes” to all of these questions, then you and your partner are likely to make a strong parenting team.
2. Are You Financially Secure?
The money question is one that many couples find most challenging when they start asking “are we ready for a baby?” Being financially ready for a baby is not about being rich or affording private school fees and school vacations in the South of France. It is simply about being able to meet the cost of raising children. It is difficult to estimate what the actual cost per week of having a baby. Your decisions about whether you breastfeed, whether you use private or commercial day-care and whether you buy new or second-hand clothes and furniture all affect the costs. As a rough guide, expect to spend an extra $50 – $100 a week extra in the first year of parenthood.
3. Are You Fit and Healthy?
Many women ask the question, “Am I healthy enough to have a baby?” and it’s a very valid one to ask as, to grow a healthy baby, you need a healthy body. Most people know that pregnancy and nutrition go hand in hand. But you should also think about the condition of your body before you attempt to conceive. Here are a few health questions to help you out:
- Do you have a nutritious and varied diet?
- Do you get regular exercise?
- Are you a non-smoker?
- Do you limit the amount of alcohol you consume?
It is essential to stop drinking altogether before attempting to conceive (we recommend being completely alcohol-free for at least a month before you start trying for a baby). You may also want to go on a pre-pregnancy detox diet if you regularly consume sugary or processed foods. Check out our article directory for more pre-pregnancy nutrition advice.
4. Are You Prepared to put Your Career on Hold?
For modern, career-focused women, the prospect of putting work on hold for a year or more can be one of the most daunting. Working through your pregnancy is very normal and accepted these days and maternity leave provisions are worked into most contracts. Nevertheless, raising children will change your working life drastically and careers for moms often have to take a backseat to good parenting. Whether you choose to be a working mom or a stay at home mom, you can expect life to change. Many working moms are still able to climb the career ladder in their chosen profession and enjoy a high-flying career as well as a happy family. But you must be prepared to put work on hold and figure out a work-family balance which works for you.
5. Are You Happy and Confident in Who You Are?
Before becoming pregnant, you need to be prepared for your body, and your life, to change in ways you’ve never imagined. Right from the initial signs of pregnancy, your body will begin to change in ways that are beyond your control. You need to have the confidence to weather and enjoy these changes, rather than feeling fat and ugly. This sounds like such a simple thing, but so many women struggle with the sudden change in appearance. Gone are the days when women had to lock themselves away in the later stages of pregnancy. Luckily there are lots of fashionable and nice maternity clothes available today so that the modern woman can feel confident and beautiful at home, at work, and out and about. Check out our store for the latest styles.
So, Are You Ready to Get Pregnant?
If you’ve worked through the questions and believe the time is right for you and your family to have a baby, take a look at some of the helpful parenting and pregnancy articles on our site:
Our advice on pregnancy and parenthood is based on years of experience but there are also hundreds of books on just about everything there is to know about pregnancy, parenting, and birth. Knowledge is the key to good decision making and it pays to know what the experts say.
Check out our “Parents’ Bookshelf” for recommendations and reviews of the most user-friendly and informative books and ebooks on everything you need to know about pregnancy, birth and beyond.
Food during pregnancy is a tough subject and everyone seems to spend a lot of time telling you what you SHOULDN’T eat. We give friendly and practical advice on how you CAN eat a healthy diet during pregnancy.
Tips for understanding ovulation cycles so that you can give yourself the best chances to conceive a baby.
A description of the first week of pregnancy signs and symptoms so you’ll know what you’re looking for as soon as you start trying.